How Do You Approach Dilemma?

I was pondering upon the nature of dilemma and why we go through the cycles of self doubt.It made me gain so much clarity about the nature of dilemma and I could sense how our need to have clarity puts us through situations that are good lessons to claim back our true self and freedom. First of all, why do we have dilemma? A dilemma is a result of confusion. Confusion arises from the lack of clarity about what we truly value and how we are compromising those values to please others unconsciously to create a false sense of security for ourselves. Most of us have no sense of values but we live our lives in a habitual routine fashion based upon viewpoints and beliefs we borrowed from our cultures and caregivers. Approaching our life and it’s events as spiritual beings in physical bodies is a gift we can give to ourselves. It will help us reconnect with our true values that emerge from our core self.It will help ease our difficulties in any area of life since life is simple but we make it complex through how we choose to identify ourselves. Our ego’s need to protect our soft selves from harsh outer world makes us put on masks of varied sorts. Simply watch your thoughts today and see what are your motivations behind those thoughts. Are you truly speaking your truth or are you trying to get the attention of other people to feel good about yourself? Are you kind enough to accept others with their faults or are you passing judgements out of resentment and anger? Are you in complete state of harmony and living your life from that center or are you living to the whims or fancies of others around you? Are you trying to control others or are you being controlled by others? We live in a constant state of motion and watching our motivations can give us some idea about how we are choosing to live life and what is our focus. It’s good exercise to ask yourself “What do I value the most and what is the order of my values? Am I living my day in alignment of those values? It’s quite insightful to know what value we are adding to our life and to that of others.Dilemma is quite resourceful source of self knowledge and I always take it to be an eye opener that opens my perception and expand my self knowledge and makes me see what I need to let go for the good of all.

Developing Emotional Awareness

Cleansing a greased utensil requires a a great deal of effort and we are well aware of the fact that if we fail to remove the oil from the utensil with cold water, we must bring to use the hot water. We are well aware of the external things and how to keep them clean if they look dirty. Do we ever make the same conscientious effort to create awareness of our emotional patterns? We dig and dig deep into the things that are completely unrelated to our personal lives and spend many hours talking of things and people that have practically no relationship to make a sensible difference in our lives. We are simply unaware of our own energy flow and lack of this awareness sets our life into a kind of pattern that feels familiar and so gives a sense of security and pleasure. We go through ups and downs like the waves of the ocean but fail to see from the distance the pattern of rising and falling that  only a distant observer standing away from the ocean can see.

Creating emotional awareness is like setting a intention to be a distant observer who can see with complete clarity the rising and falling of the emotional waves that make or break our day. Developing emotional awareness is a skill and once we make make up our mind to focus on the emotions we create and relate to different situations and people, we are taking a step in the direction called self development.

Awareness Tip of the Day

Develop the habit of maintaining silence at the end of  the day for 5 minutes and observe how you felt during the day; focus on how your emotions fluctuated like the voltage of a bulb. This will make you aware of some of your  patterns.